Frequently Asked Questions

Who attends an Intimacy Retreat?

Couples of all ages attend and enjoy Intimacy Retreats. Typically, their relationship is relatively good, committed and loving. There may or may not be some sexual concerns or other typical relationship challenges. One or both partners may be interested in Tantra, or just want a weekend away from the kids, or hope to deepen their intimate connection, enhance or reignite their love life, or just have a fun vacation together. If you are not sure if an Intimacy Retreat is a good idea at this time, please feel free to contact us. We will be happy to discuss your participation in more depth. Private retreats or coaching sessions are also available.

Is there public nudity?

There is NEVER any public sexual activity at an Intimacy Retreat. You always return to your private lodging for delightful and sexually intimate “home-play” assignments! Also, there is never any nudity unless the Intimacy Retreat is held at a clothing-optional resort, which will always be noted up-front in the schedule. Even at these resorts, nudity is never required in the workshop space.

How do we register?

For Siesta Key, see registration information or call 941 349-6804 (Florida). You can register online or by phone. For most weekend workshops, the fee is $695/couple. For other locations, click here.

What accommodations are available for lodging and how do we make arrangements?

Lodging is usually not included in the workshop fee. For Siesta Key, you make your own arrangements, selecting from a list of suggestions that we provide. In some cases, special rates apply for Intimacy Retreat participants, and we are always available to help with your selection. See Siesta Key Lodging. For other locations, click here.

Are any meals included?

Mmeals are not included in the Siesta Key Intimacy Retreat fee. For other locations, click here.

What is the schedule during a retreat?

At all Intimacy Retreats, between group sessions, you return to your room for ‘homeplay” assignments!
Siesta Key Intimacy Retreat Schedule:

  • Friday: 7:00 pm – 9:45 pm
  • Saturday: 10 am – 4 pm (with a lunch break)
  • Saturday: 8:30 pm – 10:45 pm
  • Sunday: 11 am – 1:45 pm

There is also time for relaxation and vacation activities. And you might also consider staying an extra day! (On Siesta Key, at sunset on Sundays, there is a dynamic “drum & dance” on the beach! If your schedule permits, staying for this event is a rewarding experience!)  For other locations, click here.

Can singles or same-sex couples attend?

+ Singles?
Intimacy Retreats are for couples only. However, there are talks and book signings and occasional seminars that do not require a partner. If you are on our newsletter list you will be notified of all events.

+ Same-Sex Couples?
Although we (Richard & Diana Daffner) designed the workshops based on our own man-woman relationship, same-sex partners are welcome. Both male and female sexuality are addressed. NOTE: Diana has led an Intimacy Retreat for lesbian couples and will likely do so again. Please contact her if you might be interested.

Do you teach massage?

Erotic massage is taught at workshops and couples return to their private rooms to practice. Sensual massage lessons are given by Diana Daffner as a separate and wonderful couple experience! Diana began teaching massage while she was on the Esalen Massage Staff in Big Sur, CA. The fee for Couples Massage training is $280/couple for a 2 1/2 hour experience including private outdoor hot tub (optional). Consider adding this to your Intimacy Retreat on Siesta Key. Reiki treatments and attunements are also available. Retreats longer than a weekend, and private retreats, often include massage training.

Will you offer an Intimacy Retreat in our area?

If you can organize a group of 4 or more couples who would like to experience this type of weekend, please contact us regarding sponsoring an Intimacy Retreat in your area.

How will I know when other dates & locations are added?

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What if we have a question that hasn't been answered?

Call Diana and Richard Daffner in Florida at 941 349-6804 (Florida), 9am-9pm EST. Or send an email.

Workshop Programs led by Richard and Diana Daffner, C.S., M.A.
Teachers of Tantra, Tai Chi, Massage, Reiki, Meditation and More

The Lover Asked…How would you like me to touch you?
“I would like you to touch me as if your hand were a
feather, lightly caressing the edge of my being.”

–Diana Daffner,  from The Lover’s Touch